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A Current Affair to cover male victims of family violence tonight

A Current Affair (Weeknights 7pm AEST on the Nine Network) is advertising a story to air tonight, Thursday 6th August 2015, on male victims of family violence.

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Children the forgotten victims in family violence campaign

http://fathersunionaustralia.com/wp/2015/07/05/children-the-forgotten-victims-in-family-violence-campaign/

“Destroy the family, you destroy the country.” Vladimir Ilyich Lenin Who in their right mind would in a constitutional monarchy create a secret star camber court then make our sworn enemies, Marxist feminist chief justice, that has clear intentions breaking honest hard working real people, the back bone of our society. We have got to target these traffickers and criminals who are managing promoting and selling this human trade, trafficking in human suffering, we are determined to put an end to this vile trade, trade in human life, trade in human death.
We have got to put the blame squarely at the appalling human traffickers, we now need to do everything we can using a comprehensive approach.
These traffickers are utterly ruthless, they just want the cash, once they have the cash the deal is done.
Every Australian Dad needs to join a political party today and lobby for justice. http://fathersaustralia.com/wp/

August 6, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterSteve

Thank you a current affair . This is the real silent killer nobody has the b&#%s to cover this . I can't thank you enough as a victim and my children
It is so scary when you are unable to protect yourself or your children.
Nowhere to turn , no help for a father with children you feel like your children are worthless , you feel hopeless and the police are unwilling to help them because nobody believes it happens and the police just laugh at you or arrest you
Thank you thank you thank you

August 6, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterRussell bray

I am a victim of domestic violence perpetrated against me by a female. Apparently I don't exist.

August 6, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterScott Leach

At the end of my relationship I ended up on my knees with my hands together, not praying to a God, but so the ground could support the Butt of my Shotgun. I could hear the sigh of relief from my then wife knowing that I would be gone forever, I also heard that sigh of relief from my children, families, friends and anyone else that knew me, including who didn't. My mind was moulded into being a failure as a person, a Father, a husband, a friend, a Son but most of all, a Man.
Man-Up they say. I was being a Man, what I thought was the definition of one should be. Provides, Protects, Comforts and Supports those closest to him. Day after Day slowly being worn down without a physical hand being thrown.
I called Lifeline to be put on hold, I saw the Doctors, psychologist and do-gooders who all treated me for as much as I paid them. The shame of telling my Father or Brother that I am failing was not an option. Surviving for my children, who in my mind hated me, was too late.
Through my tears on that dark day it was the courage of my daughter knowing something terrible was happening, intervened with my escape.
5 years later I watch your program, with a loving supportive women who has brought me back, with hope that things have changed and knowing I'm not alone and the words I see is "Call Lifeline".
#DV is against everyone. #21fathers a week will become 22 a week if there is no change to the Family Court System, it's #notyourright to refuse access to our childern and make false allegations. #1in3 is too many on both sides.
The issues are real.

Scott

Survivor.

August 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterScott

Thanking for drawing attention to the fact that men also suffer domestic Violence. While you covered the physical violence, it is also important to address the emotional violence men are subjected to by way of being denied contact with their children without cause. This plays a big part in Men,s depression and they do not come forward to seek help. The most prominent reason for not coming forward is they feel this will affect their chances of ever seeing their children as the Mother would find ways to use this to her advantage. A Man is in some cases held ransom by an Ex wife. They do not see the children but most pay maintenance at times large amounts, then have their own living expenses. There is no money left to pay solicitors for the Family Court. The Family Court system is costly and drawn out. The Father has to work so does not get legal Aid and Pro Bono application is not included for Family Law. Some Men end up leaving their work as all seems not worth it. Either way the man is emotionally punished. This is a very serious form of domestic violence that also affects the children but is not addressed often enough. I am embarking on a campaign to make this problem more public. I am a Grandmother and have not seen 2 of my Grandchildren in 5 years. I helped my Son with a 2 year ong court case but the Mother still refuses contact. My Son is hard working no criminal, drugs or alcohol problems. Most people think "oh there must be something no there is not

August 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterLynda Kendall

So glad to see this problem coming to the surface. Men are forgotten as also being victims of abuse. This whole area has done a complete turn around from where men abused and got away with it over fifty years ago, to today where all is out in the open. Yet now its men who are also used and abused with some women abusing their power within the authority system and threatening a man when he is innocent. The law comes in and believes the woman while she gloats and he is helpless. This is not lawful justice. He cannot work, sinks into depression and considers taking his life, which sometimes eventuates. The claims of abuse need better investigation, and children also need better care.

August 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterCrystal Mary Lindsey

MK DV Forum confirms no support for male victims

http://www.ukfamilylawreform.co.uk/mkdvforumconfirmsnosupportformalevictims21stnovember2012.htm

----- Original Message -----
From: Richard.Solly@Milton-Keynes.gov.uk
To: david@mortimers-removals.co.uk
Cc: Neil@MK-ACT.org
Sent: Wednesday, November 21, 2012 8:43 AM
Subject: RE: What you have done since 2006 to help?

Dear David

All domestic violence services except the refuge are open to men as well as
women and the proportion of men using the services has increased (although
at about 15% it is still well below the number of female victims referred).

I have circulated this to our reducing domestic abuse co-ordinator Neil
Dodds who will be able to give fuller details.

All the best

Richard

August 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterDavid Mortimer

I have been in childcare for 20 yrs. ACA dont feel proud for bringing this to fore.....feel ashamed it took you so long!!!

August 7, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterSharon

It seems that no-one is looking at the elephant in the room and addressing the issues of emotional and mental abuse. Withholding children from loving fathers, portraying them as aggressive and violent to all and sundry to justify their actions. Then you have the whole concept of parental alienation and malicious mother syndrome to top it off. i understand that women have had it difficult in the past and i feel sorry for them, but things have gone way out of control and women these days have a lot of power when it comes to separation when children are involved and it is far too easy for them to manipulate the system to force their ex-partners to their knees and beyond, financially, mentally and most definitely emotionally, where perhaps it could be argued lies the female equivalent of physical strength. There isn't a lot of help out there for a male that is a loving father trying to protect and raise his kids when dealing with a vindictive and controlling mother.

I have to agree with the fact that pretty much every piece of literature i have read on domestic violence and abuse is focused on the father being the aggressor and the only support groups i have been able to find in my region are also similarly focused. how nice it would be to be able to simply share a beer with other men dealing with the same issues telling war stories.

August 10, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterCraig

I have experienced this first hand....my daughter now only 2 years old is now in another country. My so-called wife (from eastern europe) abused both physcially and verbally, threatened, extorted me for whatever she could get. And then found out that by claiming domestic violence on my part would get her permanent residency without even being tested! Apparently there is a lot of women awaiting permanent residency who are aware of this and use this as a tool to get residency where relationships break down prior.
Police at the time (even though I went their first but couldn't bring myself to go through with an IVO) treated me as the perpetrator. All the whole time I to be honest was scared that I would be laughed at especially given the media attention DV has received over the last few years! I had kept a diary and recordings (only to ever defend myself for a couple of years but couldn't bring myself to being without a family (my second marriage this was - my other two children from that marriage I see lucky to be once a fortnight due to work commitments). All evidence was useless until one day down the track (if one could afford to go that far - lawyers advised approx $20,000 to go all the way for the DV part, another up to $100,000 for the custody and the property settlement part...all the while now that she has permanent residency and hasn't worked in paid employment was therefore entitled to free legal aid, child benefits, maintenance etc, where her native country pays only 8 euros per month for our child! I couldn't afford this let alone the damage it has done to my family, social and work life. My life has spiralled into depression where even making a cup of coffee is a chore and live with my parents. While the other half lives in an apartment overseas knowing full well it would cost me too much to do anything about the apartment or the child. Back then I even called the international social service re: kidnapping but phone call was not returned until at least a week later! People say just forget about it and move on....easier to say than do! And this is just a snippet of the last 3 years of hell....if only I had the $$$ or the know how....the whole story really deserves to be told and published or posted somewhere or somehow....because I have no closure and would like to shed light on this other side of domestic violence and how not only myself, my love, and our system can be exploited!

December 6, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterJason

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