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Antonio's personal story

I've been the victim of a psycho girlfriend, who constantly beat me up, for years. I've been strangled till almost not breathing any more, I had my nose broken by punches, I had her nails sunk in my skin just a few millimetres below my eye, I've been hit with high heels, with full cans of beer, I've been kicked out of the house at night, I had a black eye or a swollen lip so many times that I can't even remember the exact number. She even forbid me from speaking with my mum on the phone. In addition to this I had to bear all the jokes from my work colleagues who found out my girlfriend used to beat me up. The only time the police visited our home, it was when she called them. Despite the fact that I was clearly the one who got beaten up and she had no marks on her, the cops ordered me to leave the house for the night or else I would have been arrested.

Derek's personal story

I am a 6 foot 2, 190-pound, 33 year old male and I was assaulted many times over a two year period. The first 1 1/2 years were fine, no abuse, then one morning in January 2015 she attacked me for the first time. She kicked my back while I was lying down and metal pot to my head twice, denting the pot. Over time I was subjected to countless punches, kicks, household objects, even a shard of glass, and called the most hateful and hurtful names she knew to call me. Twice I finally called the cops, went to jail both times. The 2nd time I had bruises, scratches, a torn ear with 5 stitches and glue, and a major big bruise on my back and I reported the crime at hospital. The fucking cops put me in a freezing cold air conditioned concrete cell with a freezing surface concrete bed and I shivered badly all damn night and got nothing for warmth. Did I learn my lesson? No, I still loved her and wanted to be there for my little girl whom I love so dearly. The last time she upgraded her choice of weapon - she tried to stab me. I reacted to defend myself to prevent her stabbing me in the eye, in which case I wouldn't be here. So I hit her back and she called the police for the first time ever and fabricated a huge lie about what happened. I'm in a lot of trouble. Thankfully I do have a lot of proof of her abuse just in case - pics of injuries and video of her going berserk as I fought to keep the door closed. Document everything men, write it down, camera at the ready or install a hidden one for your safety. I wish I knew that beforehand. Unless you have got video proof, your ass is going to gaol plain and simple because the cops are blind to this matter. Thank you for reading.

Kel's personal story

My story is sad and still ongoing. I met my wife 8 years ago, after meeting her family in the first week I should have realised something was wrong, but I stuck it out and the last 8 years have been permanently scarring. I'm a 6 foot 4 male and my 5 foot partner was a lot stronger than me even to the point that her favourite party trick was to carry me out of the pub. Over the years I saw and received all kinds of abuse, from her father physically assaulting her, to verbal abuse. In 8 years I have been assaulted, falsely imprisoned, put down and abused, and even got shot at.

My wife is a sweet girl but she was brought up in the underworld and her family are sick and twisted and sadly it rubbed off on her. In 2016 we were married, out of 60 people 4 were my own.... just 4 as I wasn't allowed to invite my kin. A few months later my wife fell pregnant and I thought things would change but they didn't. I told her I wanted to separate as I couldn't handle things anymore and I was scared for my daughter.

The end result was after 8 years of abuse my loving wife took it upon herself to go to the police and make a false statement of how abusive I was... I was arrested and as she made the first move and I'm male, they treated me very badly and I was instantly branded a woman-beater. Now I have an intervention order, charges, and I've lost my daughter. The stigma of men being the “culprits” is crap. I have physical and mental scars and still people assume it's always the man that's the aggressor. I'm too embarrassed and ashamed to tell the police and they don't believe me anyway. The idea of women only being able to be victims frustrates me.


Susan's personal story

After looking through the stories on here, I realise that I've got an oddity. I've got that more unusual story, but one that desperately, urgently needs telling.

My current partner is a loving, caring man, he's fantastically sensitive and funny, with a killer smile. He's also a large man, at 6'2" and (at the time) 120kg of muscle from working a physical job. So the story he recounted to me once really sticks with me, since it reminds me so very much of a classic case of abuse that would happen to women.

The story starts, proceeds and ends exactly as your stereotypical female-oriented story would. He had a few too many drinks, and was fooling around with his then-girlfriend. Things began to get intimate, but he realised then that he was making a mistake, and asked to stop. The girl didn't stop. He then asked again, more urgently. She replied that because he had an erection, he was clearly into it and secretly wanted it. He insisted that he didn't and tried to get away. But in his intoxicated state, he wasn't coordinated enough to get away, and was too proud to try and defend himself against her, lest he be painted the assailant. She proceeded to rape him.

After the event, he told nobody for a very long time, and it very much broke his spirit. It has been something that has needed to be carefully rekindled over time. He was terrified of going to the police for fear of being accused as the perpetrator, and didn't tell anybody else for fear of being shamed. This wasn't something that happened to men... was it? And yet, it sounds so beautifully framed as a female rape story that the case would have been completely black-and-white had the genders been reversed.

I'm still fighting for this. The conversation about violence against females is important and I do not wish to belittle it in any way, but the conversation about violence against men isn't even being had. Nobody, regardless of race, age, gender or beliefs, has the right to harm any other person. The arguments to protect victims need to include protection for all victims, which it currently does not.


Tam's personal story

My youngest brother has a strong held belief that he shouldn't hit a woman... it was how he was raised, and in his eyes, one of the worst things that he could ever be accused of. He has now on two occasions been the subject of physical abuse by female partners (emotional abuse is another story to tell). The first time he left the relationship, but the sad truth is, the second time he defended himself. He bit her on the leg. The police were called. He tried to tell the police officer that she attacked him (the bruise around his throat in the shape of finger marks that came out within hours was horrible) but the police officer's response, when my brother asked "what rights do men have?" was "you should have walked away". Even to go to the police days later, they didn't want to listen.

Needless to say, in the day and age of Facebook, my brother's photo was posted with a "if you see him, bash him for bashing her" vibe... the threat of defamation meant an "assault causing grievous bodily harm" route was taken. But we are still dealing with it and can only rely on a justice system that isn't always fair to be fair this time. As a woman, I am friggin angry that it is females like her that abuse a system designed to help and protect, and it appears, only designed to protect females. But my anger over how men have to deal with abuse with so little support, even from the police, I can't even describe! How do you get the message out that men can be victims too? How do we make it fair? How do you make a stand? I only hope that other male victims of violence by women have a loving and supportive family to fall back on!