Nii's personal story
Thursday, March 23, 2017
One in Three Campaign

Reading about people's experience makes me believe I am not alone in this situation. I don't know who to talk to. Even if I knew, my current situation draws me back from going forward. I am an African married to an Aussie lady. We have known each other for 3 years and we met through a friend.

I was living outside the country when we met and gradually I came here going through all this paperwork. Initially, she was very nice, sent gifts to my kids and was very nice to me. 10 days after I arrived in Australia she threw my things away and locked me out for 6 hrs. I had nowhere to go and it was cold outside. The issue was I asked her to give me some time as I was talking to a male friend she is knows so well online.

After some time things got better then worse, I realised her sexual behaviour is so strange. She wants sex most of the time especially from 15th to 22nd. I told her about that and asked her to watch out for those days. She tells me she can't live a week without sex and I realised she has been with more than 8 to 10 black guys, so her sexual desire is too high.

I can't take it any more I need to have sex with her 4 to 5 times in week. And any day I refuse she will abuse me and keep me awake all night. I have developed back pain because of my work and this sexual lifestyle. I have so many recordings of her verbal abusive life on my phone. I don't know what to do since I am on a temporary visa.

She stops and fights with me for getting more shifts at work. I have 62 hrs instead of 80 hrs a fortnight. I don't drink and I don't smoke. I am a home boy. Every 4th night I support her sharing my salary with her. I give her 1600 AUD a month. All I want is for her to calm down on her swearing and lower her voice when she is angry. I get scared when she gets angry, she has physical abused me on several occasions. Squeezing my balls, pushing me against the wall, attacking me in the toilet and throwing things at me. I am really scared of my life. I need help.

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