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Shoalhaven Staying Home Leaving Violence Program denies support to male clients

The Staying Home Leaving Violence (SHLV) program is state-wide service in NSW launched by former Minister for Women Linda Burney. We have assurances from the Office for Women that this program will be open to all victims of domestic violence regardless of gender. However, we have been reliably informed that the Shoalhaven SHLV service will only provide support to female clients. Nowhere in their published material is this mentioned. The reason for this discrimination is that the auspicing body (Waminda Women's Aboriginal Health) has a policy of only assisting women and children.


Wait Your Turn Mister! (South Africa)

Right on the heels of Domestic Violence [against women] Awareness Month (October) comes the International Day of the Elimination of Violence Against Women (Nov.25th) and 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence. Concurrent with these last two campaigns is the White Ribbon Campaign which is the time for men and women to wear white ribbons and pledge to never commit, condone or remain silent about violence against women and girls.

Following these two and one-half months of awareness of violence against women January brings National Stalking [against women] Awareness Month, February, the Go Red for Women in National Women's Heart Disease Awareness Month, March is Vulva Awareness Month , April is Sexual Assault [against women] Awareness Month, May is Women's Health Month, August is Child Support Awareness Month, September is National Ovarian Cancer and Menopause Awareness Month and finally we are back to October again with, Breast Cancer and Domestic Violence Awareness Month. But I digress.

Now I'm as much for bringing awareness to serious social and health issues as the next person. However, I have to wonder, have we gone too far with all this awareness when someone feels they have a right to publicly humiliate and minimize another person's pain and suffering?

I came across an opinion piece in a Johannesburg newspaper online the other day titled, "Men are victims of violence too, but that's not the point." The writer, Pinky Khoabane, was irate that a whimpering, whining (her words) man had called a radio station to discuss domestic violence perpetrated against him by a former female intimate partner at a time when, according to Ms. Khoabane, the focus should be on violence against women and children. Ms. Khoabane wrote that she found herself screaming into her radio '"Hello, this isn't your day, Mister..."' She was fuming and horrified that others who called into the radio station were empathetic to this man. She asked, '"When did women become such abusers of men for this campaign to literally be hijacked by the cries of men?"'

In her written tantrum she went on to say that men need accept and acknowledge that men are mostly the aggressors [of domestic violence], women the victims and that most of womens aggression is in self defense. She ended by telling the abused man who called the radio station that his day will come but that the gender violence referred to during [the 16 Days of Activism Against Gender Violence] is not that perpetrated against him and they aren't interested.

Sadly, Ms. Khoabane reflects the same sentiments that I have heard from other women's rights activists (both male and female) here in the US, abused men should just take their lumps and shut up about it already, it's not their time to get attention or services.

When will it be "their time?" It's been nearly forty years since the movement to end violence against women began and much progress has been made as evidenced by the number of awareness campaigns, services and the amount of funding that has been put in place to end all forms of violence against women here in the US.

How many more years do we need to wait to see attention and like services made available to men (and children) who suffer abuse at the hands of their intimate partners? It's not as if we don't have proof of the need for services for abused men. Research has shown that men with violent partners have most of the same needs as abused women.

Will abused men's "time" ever come? I guess we will just have to stop whining and whimpering and wait silently to see. NOT!

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Working with men affected by violence - training program

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Sydney, March 21 2011, 9am - 4pm, Forum Room 1, Hyde Park Inn, 271 Elizabeth Street, Sydney.

In Australia up to one in three victims of family violence are male but the needs of male victims remain largely unmet even though the issue of men affected by violence in intimate relationships has been reported for many years. This is Australia’s only training program for health, welfare and community workers that provides information and strategies for working with men who are affected by violence in their relationships.

The program covers the background to the problem and context violence and abuse occurs in; the affect of domestic violence on men; strategies for working with men from a strengths based perspective; a model for working with men affected by violence; what to consider and how to build services for these men into your agency. The program is pro- vided in a strengths based model that addresses the social determinants of health.

The cost is $220 for a one day training program, training resources and a copy of “Men’s health & wellbeing: an a – z guide”, all refreshments and lunch plus 3 month follow up support with service or resource development. Registration is open now for this program. Email or phone 0417 772 390 for a program flyer and registration form.

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'Boo-hoo': judge axes attack case

A struggling single mum who hit her ex with a plastic bottle after he bragged to her about his surfing holiday, while paying her minimal child support, has been vindicated in court.

Office manager Tanya Austin was "at breaking point" when she lashed out and threw a plastic bottle at the face of her ex-partner on September 26.

The Austinmer mum had gone to pick her son up from her ex-partner's flat after a visit when he began telling her about his overseas surfing trip.

It was the final straw for the 36-year-old, who was struggling financially and receiving very little child support from the man.

She threw the plastic tonic water bottle at the man's face, hitting him below the eye.

The man was reportedly shaken up by the incident and suffered some bruising, scratches and tenderness to his face as a result, the court heard previously.

He called police and Ms Austin was charged with, and later pleaded guilty to, one count of common assault.

Yesterday Wollongong District Court Judge Paul Conlon scoffed at the notion the man was "trembling and crying" as a result of being struck by a plastic bottle and said Ms Austin should have never been charged.

"Oh boo-hoo. The bloke should have been told [by police] to man up, quite frankly," he said.

"She has really been left with the total responsibility of bringing up their child. She receives little financial support [from him] ... [and yet] he decided to take himself off on a wonderful surfing holiday and then told her all about it."

The fact he had the temerity to even call police after the incident was very telling of his character, Judge Conlon added.

"This is an easy case for me to throw out. All I can do is apologise to you for ever having been brought into the court system."

Judge Conlon granted Ms Austin's appeal against the 12-month good behaviour bond she received for the offence in Wollongong Local Court last month and released her without conviction.


One in Three Campaign submission to the Whole of ACT Government Statement on Family Violence

The ACT Government has asked the Domestic Violence Prevention Council to prepare a Whole of Government Statement on Family Violence. The aim of the Statement is to articulate a clear and concise message about the Government’s position that everyone has a right to live their lives free from family violence in all its forms. The Statement, together with the ACT Prevention of Violence Against Women and their Children Strategy which is currently under development, will provide overarching guidance to shape all future policies, and to assist with the updating of current policies.

The One in Three Campaign has lodged a submission to the Whole of ACT Government Statement on Family Violence that strongly agrees with the overall message conveyed by the draft statement, but provides some suggestions that add to the statement’s accuracy and inclusivity.

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