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One in three victims of family violence are male

Men's stories

MEN’S PERSONAL STORIES

If you are a male victim of family violence – intimate partner violence, violence from other family members, child abuse, elder abuse, sexual assault, or other forms of family violence and abuse – this page is available for you to tell your anonymous story. Please click here to tell your own story. If you feel like you need support, please click here. Stories are moderated to prevent the posting of spam, so it might take a little while for your story to appear on this page.

 

Kel's personal story

My story is sad and still ongoing. I met my wife 8 years ago, after meeting her family in the first week I should have realised something was wrong, but I stuck it out and the last 8 years have been permanently scarring. I'm a 6 foot 4 male and my 5 foot partner was a lot stronger than me even to the point that her favourite party trick was to carry me out of the pub. Over the years I saw and received all kinds of abuse, from her father physically assaulting her, to verbal abuse. In 8 years I have been assaulted, falsely imprisoned, put down and abused, and even got shot at.

My wife is a sweet girl but she was brought up in the underworld and her family are sick and twisted and sadly it rubbed off on her. In 2016 we were married, out of 60 people 4 were my own.... just 4 as I wasn't allowed to invite my kin. A few months later my wife fell pregnant and I thought things would change but they didn't. I told her I wanted to separate as I couldn't handle things anymore and I was scared for my daughter.

The end result was after 8 years of abuse my loving wife took it upon herself to go to the police and make a false statement of how abusive I was... I was arrested and as she made the first move and I'm male, they treated me very badly and I was instantly branded a woman-beater. Now I have an intervention order, charges, and I've lost my daughter. The stigma of men being the “culprits” is crap. I have physical and mental scars and still people assume it's always the man that's the aggressor. I'm too embarrassed and ashamed to tell the police and they don't believe me anyway. The idea of women only being able to be victims frustrates me.

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