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One in three victims of family violence are male

Men's stories

MEN’S PERSONAL STORIES

If you are a male victim of family violence – intimate partner violence, violence from other family members, child abuse, elder abuse, sexual assault, or other forms of family violence and abuse – this page is available for you to tell your anonymous story. Please click here to tell your own story. If you feel like you need support, please click here. Stories are moderated to prevent the posting of spam, so it might take a little while for your story to appear on this page.

 

Derek's personal story

I am a 6 foot 2, 190-pound, 33 year old male and I was assaulted many times over a two year period. The first 1 1/2 years were fine, no abuse, then one morning in January 2015 she attacked me for the first time. She kicked my back while I was lying down and metal pot to my head twice, denting the pot. Over time I was subjected to countless punches, kicks, household objects, even a shard of glass, and called the most hateful and hurtful names she knew to call me. Twice I finally called the cops, went to jail both times. The 2nd time I had bruises, scratches, a torn ear with 5 stitches and glue, and a major big bruise on my back and I reported the crime at hospital. The fucking cops put me in a freezing cold air conditioned concrete cell with a freezing surface concrete bed and I shivered badly all damn night and got nothing for warmth. Did I learn my lesson? No, I still loved her and wanted to be there for my little girl whom I love so dearly. The last time she upgraded her choice of weapon - she tried to stab me. I reacted to defend myself to prevent her stabbing me in the eye, in which case I wouldn't be here. So I hit her back and she called the police for the first time ever and fabricated a huge lie about what happened. I'm in a lot of trouble. Thankfully I do have a lot of proof of her abuse just in case - pics of injuries and video of her going berserk as I fought to keep the door closed. Document everything men, write it down, camera at the ready or install a hidden one for your safety. I wish I knew that beforehand. Unless you have got video proof, your ass is going to gaol plain and simple because the cops are blind to this matter. Thank you for reading.
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