This page contains a selection of recent news articles and commentary about male victims of violence and abuse plus related issues. These articles are presented as a community service, and do not necessarily reflect the views of the One in Three Campaign.

Please send any relevant news articles to us by clicking here and we will post them on this page.


Men can be victims too

‘I was hit, I was punched, I was head-butted, I was bruised. I felt trapped, physically and emotionally, and isolated from my friends and family. I felt such a sense of shame that this was happening to me.’

This quote from a victim of domestic violence is sadly typical of those suffering at the hands of abusive partners — except in one crucial respect. The victim in this instance is male.

Alan Edwards (not his real name) spent three years in an abusive relationship with the mother of his young son before seeking help.

He was verbally and physically abused in front of his son, had his front door kicked down and felt pushed to his emotional limit.

“I’m six foot one and I weigh 90kg, and I would rather be punched in the face by a man than be shamed in this way by a woman,” he said. “You can get over the physical damage but the emotional abuse is so much harder. People don’t even recognise that it’s there for a start.

“The shame comes from a lack of support. If people are supporting and validating me, the shame doesn’t land. Nobody told me that I was right and she was wrong. The shame can’t be relieved, so it doesn’t go away.”

Think domestic violence and chances are you’ll picture a woman with a black eye or bruising, one of the graphic images used in government media campaigns of recent years.

What these very successful campaigns fail to mention, however, is that the victims of such violence can be men, too.

It’s difficult to get a true understanding of the prevalence of domestic violence against men in Australia, partly because of the extreme reluctance of men to report it. However, it’s estimated that about one in three victims of domestic violence in Australia is male, and the effects of such abuse on men can be just as devastating as on women.

html#ixzz0n5xrz7qv Read full article


Abuse of men 'hidden epidemic'

Women beating up their men -- whether physically, emotionally or financially -- has become a hidden epidemic because blokes are too fearful of being labelled wimps if they cry for help.

A new study has found for male victims of “intimate partner abuse”, the cumulative effect of repeat “knees in the nuts” or being heaped with scorn is a damaging erosion of self-worth. But a typical response to men who do complain is, “C’mon, you’re a bloke -- get over it”.

Similar to the pattern of abuse of women by men, it often starts with verbal, financial and psychological abuse, but over time escalates to physical and sometimes even sexual abuse.

The issue is even more under-reported for men than women, because men fear either being seen as wimps or not being believed, the study says. Support services for abuse victims are skewed towards females, it adds.

“I didn’t expect that the stories I was hearing from men would be so similar to the stories of female abuse,” said Alfred Allan, professor at Edith Cowan University and co-author of Intimate Partner Abuse of Men.

“Physical abuse isn’t as big a problem for males as females, and when a male assaults a female, it’s generally more severe, but there are male victims out there who are falling through the cracks.”

The study is based on interviews with male victims and service providers working in the field of domestic abuse.

“She would actually hit him with the pan . . . throw reasonably large objects at him . . . punch him to the point of bruising,” one service provider recalled of a client’s interview. “I’ve lost count of how many times she’s kneed me in the nuts,” a male victim said.

The report notes the growing prevalence of the abuse of men by their partner. More than 80 per cent of the nearly 200 service providers in the areas of health, welfare and justice reportedproviding support for at least one man in the previous 12 months who had been a victim of intimate partner abuse, the report says. Some are same sex, but many are female partners.

Psychologist and author in men’s mental health Elizabeth Celi describes the abuse of men by their spouse as a “silent phenomenon”. She says women perpetrators tend to combine verbal and emotional abuse of their partner with any physical violence.

“Given women’s verbal and emotional literacy, a viper tongue can really maim a man’s sense of self-worth,” Dr Celi said.

“Men also face the social stigma of being a victim. Not only is he questioning his own masculinity and identity, unfortunately he is more often than not disbelieved or disregarded. ’You must have done something to deserve it’ or ’C’mon, you’re a bloke, get over it’, are typical reactions.”

Gary Bryant, executive officer of Men’s Advisory Network, which commissioned the study, says it proves men aren’t just perpetrators of domestic violence ; they’re also victims, but with less of a voice.

html#ixzz0n5xrz7qv Read full article


Pakistani who 'killed husband' in 20ft Kashmir fireball gets 1,300-pounds-a-month benefits in Britain

A Pakistani woman living on benefits in the UK despite facing a murder charge in her home country was yesterday facing demands from MPs to return there to stand trial.

Bushra Ferozdin Butt, 35, spent ten months in custody after she was accused of pouring kerosene over her husband Amjad Hussain, 36, and setting him alight.

She was eventually bailed by a judge and travelled to Luton, where she had lived with Mr Hussain for nine years.

html#ixzz0n5xrz7qv Read full article


One in Three submission to the ALRC Family Violence Inquiry

The Australian Law Reform Commission (ALRC) undertook an inquiry into the interaction in practice of state and territory family and domestic violence and child protection laws with the Family Law Act 1975 (Cth) and relevant Commonwealth, state and territory criminal laws; and the impact of inconsistent interpretation or application of laws in cases of sexual assault occurring in a family/domestic violence context, including rules of evidence, on victims of such violence. Their final report, Family Violence - A National Legal Response, was published in November 2010.

The One in Three Campaign met with the President of the ALRC, Professor Roslyn Croucher and her staff in May 2010 and presented this preliminary submission to in the inquiry which was cited from on numerous occasions in the ALRC's final report. Our major achievement was that, despite the gendered nature of the terms of reference given to the ALRC, their recommendations were directed towards reforming legal frameworks with the aim of improving the safety of all victims of family violence – whether male or female.

html#ixzz0n5xrz7qv View full submission


US woman 'stabbed husband after bad sex'

A US woman who allegedly stabbed her husband with scissors because she was disappointed with his performance in bed has been arrested for assault.

Police say Michelle Thomas, 26, became enraged after her husband failed to satisfy her in a sex session on Tuesday, the Smoking Gun website reports.

Officers were called to the couple's home after Ms Thomas slashed at the man with scissors.

The man suffered superficial cuts to his chest, leg and hand.

Ms Thomas told police her husband was drunk and had grabbed her by the wrists before throwing her on their bed.

But police found that Ms Thomas had no visible injuries from the alleged attack.

Police charged Ms Thomas with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon, despite her husband refusing to press charges.

html#ixzz0n5xrz7qv Read full article