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Friday
Nov062015

Revealed - The Shocking Truth About Domestic Violence Support | YouTube Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rllx_-kpKTY&feature=youtu.be

Domestic Violence in Australia recently had a $100 million package for services announced by the Australian government to help women who have been victims and it is time to go beyond only making funding available for some of the victims of this horrific issue. Men also require assistance for when they are the ones being subjected to this growing violence in society today and according to ANROWS/ABS statistics, 694,100 men had experienced violence by a female intimate partner.

The harsh reality of being a male victim of domestic violence is one reason many males commit suicide because of the minimal support offered (apart from calling 1800Respect, who are fantastic). Sadly, when you're told there is nothing we can do for you because "We aren't funded to help men", you soon realise there is nowhere to turn and you feel there is little hope for the future.

The resources for men are non-existent - no emergency accommodation, no refuges, no financial assistance, no relocation assistance, no face to face counselling services (unless you are a perpetrator of DV), no place to turn to.

Being someone who experienced this first hand, I found the support to be non-existent and was shocked to discover that even the supportive literature (that is meant to be impartial) was also biased against male victims.

Domestic Violence in general is a major issue, regardless of gender, race or religion. If you want to bring real change to this issue, gender is not the answer, people are the answer - men, women, transgender. Really think about it because the only statistic relevant to DV is that 100% of victims are either female, male or transgender and every single person requires support to heal & recover.

The problem with the approach to domestic violence being continually referred to a "gendered issue" is that it is factually & perceptively incorrect. This narrative is creating gender apartheid and not taking into account that violence is a learned behavior with most perpetrators coming from either dysfunctional families, been subject to DV as a child, witnessed it in their parents relationship or has been subjected to some sort of traumatic abusive event.

Saying "statistically" only women & children require support doesn't help the 25% of males who suffer from these horrific actions & behaviours - 100% of domestic violence victims require support & assistance to recover from this debilitating problem, regardless of gender, race or religion.

Domestic Violence does not discriminate and neither should the services offered in supporting victims.

Doves4All (Domestic Violence Emotional Support 4 All) is aimed at supporting those who have experienced domestic violence through emotional roller coaster and being a place of respite to share your story, regardless of gender, race or religion.

This is a supportive group and for members to share their experience, offer help & support to others from domestic violence, provide insights into what has helped them recover and advice on resources that are available to help other victims.

This is not a group for gender debates about domestic violence and any comments which are of an abusive nature will not be tolerated.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/529349803897844/

You can help by clicking here and signing the petition - https://goo.gl/2lmjpV

Sunday
Oct252015

Why I’m backing QLD Labor Premier on male victims | Talk About Men

This week the Labor premier of Queensland, Annastacia Palaszczuk, made headlines by calling for campaigns against domestic violence to be inclusive of male victims.

Predictably—for anyone who understands the world of gender politics—this call for greater inclusivity and gender equality was not celebrated (or even begrudgingly tolerated) by the feminist movement.

Responding in The Guardian, representatives from Domestic Violence NSW (DVNSW) and Brisbane Domestic Violence Service (BDVS) warned Palaszczuk not to “put domestic violence against men above women”.

If you haven’t been initiated into the ways of gender politics, you might expect domestic violence services to be concerned for the safety of all victims, regardless of their gender.

In reality, DVNWS believes in “managing and operating refuges within a feminist framework for women alone” and BDVS takes the position that “all the indications are that 9 out of every 10 domestic violence victims is a female”.

This statement, made on the “myths and facts” page of the BDVS website without any sense of irony, is in fact a myth.

The truth is, there are many conflicting indicators on the numbers of victims of domestic violence who are male and female. Some men’s advocates claim the proportion of male victims of domestic violence is 50% or more. Some women’s advocates claim it’s 10% or less.

The truth sits somewhere between these extremes, with the Australian Bureau of Statistics telling us that one in three people who experienced domestic violence from a current partner in the past 12 months are male, as are one in four people killed by their partners.

More broadly, nearly two-thirds of victims of all violence in Australia are male, with men and boys being the main victims of both men’s violence and women’s violence.

Each year, for example, more Australian males (8.7%) will experienced violence than Australian females (5.3%).

Sure, there are some types of violence that women are more likely to experience and men are more likely to perpetrate (and vice versa). But let’s be clear, most men and women in Australia are neither perpetrators nor victims and all fair-minded campaigners for gender equality should want just three things:

  • For all victims of violence to be helped, supported and protected regardless of their gender
  • For all perpetrators of violence to be held to account for their actions and given the opportunity to reform and redeem themselves, regardless of their gender
  • For all violence to be prevented and ultimately ended, regardless of the gender of the victim of the perpetrator

There are those who argue that talking about male victims ignores the “fact” that violence is “gendered”. This is the thrust of the feminist backlash against Palaszczuk’s call for domestic violence campaigns to include male victims.

The word “gendered” is used five times in the Guardian article with Moo Baulch, CEO of Domestic Violence NSW, claiming there is a resistance to recognising the gendered nature of domestic violence and Karyn Walsh, CEO of Micah Projects, which runs the Brisbane Domestic Violence Service, saying that the response to domestic violence must maintain “a gendered focus”

But what do they mean by “gendered”?

At a theoretical level, this “gendered” approached was recently described by a former advisor to the Chief Commissioner of Victoria Police as a “socio-constructivist model of abuse…that [sees] male violence against women [as] solely an expression of patriarchy” and discards “any contributing factors to the perpetrator’s crimes other than his gender.”

At a practical level, “gendered” means that whenever possible, we should only talk about violence as a phenomenon that men perpetrate against women and girls (or women and children).

Proof of this dogma in action can be found in an open letter to the Queensland premier, signed by 24 domestic violence refuges and support services including BDVS.

Despite being 1,500 words long, the letter makes no mention of male victims (straight or gay); no mention of gay or bisexual women who are victims of domestic violence and no mention of female perpetrators.

The letter uses the word women or the phrase “women and children” 45 times, always in the context of being a “victim”, while using the word “male” twice, always in the context of “perpetrator”.

That’s not a “gendered” approach, it’s sexist and it’s homophobic in a way that is damaging to men, women, children as well as people of different sexualities and gender identities across the LGBTQI spectrum.

I agree with Walsh, Baulch and everyone in the women’s movement who says we have to take a gendered approach to tackling domestic violence, but only if that means ensuring services are tailored to the specific needs of all victims of every gender, sexuality and gender identity.

Within that diverse and equitable ideal, I would have no issue with women’s groups who advocate for female victims and not male victims, but what we have at present is people in positions of power and privilege for whom it is business as usual to advocate for female victims and against male victims.

Despite this unfortunate truth, I have no issue with people offering services within a feminist framework, but not when they try to prevent others from offering services within a non-feminist framework.

As Ally Fogg, a columnist at The Guardian in the UK, has previously said, within feminist approaches to tackling domestic violence, “too often male victims are portrayed as a statistical irrelevance, smeared as probable abusers themselves or as part of a malevolent plot against feminism, or simply ignored altogether”.

Where feminism dominates and controls services, it is inevitable that these services will respond almost exclusively to the needs of women (and their dependent children) who are victims of male perpetrators. According to the Centre for Forensic Behavioural Science, this approach means that the family violence sector in Australia is missing “at least 30 per cent of family violence situations”.

With this in mind, anyone who is genuinely committed to creating a world free from violence should be welcoming and supporting the Labor Premier’s attempts to include male victims in our response to tackling domestic violence.

To do otherwise is to treat male victims as the enemy and make it harder (if not impossible) for men, women and children who don’t fit into the heteronormative “male perpetrator/female victim” paradigm of domestic violence to get the help and support they need.

This is an archaic view of gendered violence, which lies beyond compassion and reason and has no place in a diverse, inclusive and equal society.

—Article by Glen Poole, Director of Helping Men and author of the book Equality For Men

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Saturday
Oct242015

A Logan woman said she was not diminishing the problem of domestic violence against women, but wanted people to know that men also suffered abuse

October 22, 2015 1:00am

Judith Maizey, Albert & Logan News

He was punched and scratched, screamed at and threatened. His children were also abused, physically and emotionally.

Of a night, he would put his children to bed and then push wardrobes against the door to stop anyone getting into the room.

The perpetrator was the man’s wife, the children’s mother.

“I recall a once confident, happy, healthy, loving and caring man who lost his life to domestic violence,” said the man’s sister, Megan, who lives in Beenleigh.

Megan said she was not diminishing the problem of domestic violence against women, but wanted people to know that men also suffered abuse.

Megan’s brother met his wife in 1999 and was married within months.

“I remember when he first got married he was very happy, but within two months it all changed,” she said.

“She was extremely demanding, calculating and manipulative. My brother’s confidence and health quickly deteriorated.”

Megan said her brother stayed in the marriage for eight years because he was afraid of “losing his children” and he “loved” his wife despite what she did.

But within days of being granted a temporary protection order (a type of domestic violence order or DVO) against his wife, Megan’s brother died of a heart attack. He was in his 40s.

Megan said her brother received 110 abusive text messages from his wife in breach of the DVO the day before he died, wishing him dead, threatening to burn the house down and hurt him and the children.

She said her brother died trying to save himself and his children from a harmful environment. “He sought help through the police and support services,” she said.

“My family also sought help (for him). No one cared.”

Megan said men faced many barriers when they tried to disclose domestic violence.

“No one believes them and hardly anyone will speak up for them,” she said.

“Because of these barriers, men are much less likely to report being a victim of domestic and family violence.”

Waterford MP and Minister for Women Shannon Fentiman said the State Government was committed to supporting victims of domestic violence, regardless of their gender.

“(Former Governor General) Quentin Bryce said, in the Not Now, Not Ever report, the majority of domestic violence offences are committed by men against women and that it is a gendered crime,” she said.

“The latest police figures show that 86 per cent of offenders who breach a DVO are male.

“That is not to detract from the fact that domestic violence does happen to men, and family violence can have a devastating effect on young boys as well.”

For male victims of domestic violence, phone Mensline 1300 789 978.

(the name ‘Megan’ is a pseudonym.)

Wednesday
Oct212015

What About The Men? Exploring the Hidden Side of Domestic Violence | Vimeo Video

A documentary about men who have been in abusive relationships. The survivor's stories and the contributions of experts from the mental health, legal and law enforcement world will illuminate this often overlooked societal ill.

What About The Men? Exploring the Hidden Side of Domestic Violence from David Pisarra on Vimeo.

Monday
Oct192015

Premier Annastacia Palaszczuk 'changes language' about violence against men | Brisbane Times

Premier Annastacia Palaszczuk has admitted she "changed her language" around domestic violence after hearing of the men it impacted.

Ms Palaszczuk, who has led a government-wide response to domestic violence issues after receiving the 'Not Now, Not Ever' report commissioned by the previous administration, said violence against men did need to be recognised while speaking with a male domestic violence survivor at the Bundaberg community cabinet event.

"I do understand that there are a number of men have gone through or are going through [domestic violence]," she said.

"I actually did change my language when it did become public because it was brought to my attention that there was some serious issues surrounding some men in our community needing help as well

"I do think that is something we do need to address a bit more."

Ms Palaszczuk said she would be asking for an inclusive campaign when she next speaks with Prime Minister Malcolm Turnbull.

"It has to be about stopping violence," she said.

"I was very clear when I have been down at COAG, previously when I was with Tony Abbott and I'll be making it very clear to Malcolm Turnbull as well, that any advertising needs to be about respectful relationships, that we need to make sure that that is actually taught not just in the home, but in the schools and that it is the way we treat men and women and it is about calling people out for the wrong thing."

One in six women will experience or have experienced violence against them by a current or former partner, while more than 60 women have been killed in family violence related incidents this year.

Ms Palaszczuk said the campaign to address domestic violence was one example of the state and federal governments working together and said she believed there would also be agreement on medical cannabis.

"This is another issue that you are gradually seeing bipartisan support," she said. 

"So not only do we have bipartisan support on stopping domestic violence, so we now have bipartisan support on looking at medical cannabis for the trial in the first stage and looking t what is the regulatory framework that is needed at the federal level.

"And, we do acknowledge the benefits that would bring to a lot of families."

Queensland announced it would be taking part in the trials earlier this year.

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Please take the time to contact Ms Palaszczuk to congratulate her on acknowledging male victims of family violence.

https://www.facebook.com/APalaszczukMP?fref=ts

http://www.thepremier.qld.gov.au/tools/contact.aspx