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Tuesday
Nov102015

'How is that any different?' Fitness guru Michelle Bridges argues domestic violence against men 'is just as important' as the abuse of women

Fitness guru Michelle Bridges has weighed in on Australia’s domestic violence crisis, arguing that violence against men should be taken just as seriously as abuse on female victims.

On Tuesday morning while appearing on Channel 10 morning show 'Studio 10' the Biggest Loser trainer took part in a panel discussion on female perpetrators of domestic violence.

The presenters discussed a viral video experiment, which found bystanders are more likely to intervene if a man slaps a woman in public than if a woman strikes her male partner.

When host Jessica Rowe pointed out that one woman dies every week in Australia at the hands of her partner, Michelle argued that the victim’s gender is unimportant.

‘I think it's violence against humanity, whether it's a man or a woman, when you see something like that,’ Michelle told her co-panelists.

‘It's jarring and I'd like to think that I would step in even if it's a man hitting a guy, I think that we need to discuss this topic with a more open-minded forum.

She argued that the domestic violence crisis needs to step back and focus on violence as a whole, including when a man or woman strikes a man.

‘I think it’s about all violence – all violence, whether it’s violence against children, women, men, animals,' she said. 

However, presenters Jessica Rowe and Joe Hildebrand both argued that the ‘crisis’ Australia is facing is violence against women and children, particularly at the hands of their partners and fathers, and it can be ‘distracting’ to focus on other less prominent issues, such as the less frequent circumstances in which women are the perpetrators.

This year alone it's understood at least 76 women have been killed by their male partners, according to Counting Dead Women.

When Joe Hildebrand argued that violence against men is ‘so rare compared to the amount of violence that men heap upon women’, Michelle interjected: ‘does that make it any less important?’

Joe shocked his co-panellists by confessing ‘instinctively I feel repulsed by (watching) the man hit the woman but did not have as visceral a reaction from watching the woman hitting the man'.

‘I don’t understand, how is that any different just because there’s a woman giving the violence than a man giving the violence?’ probed Michelle.

‘I suppose it’s because men are physically stronger than women,’ Joe responded, to which the personal trainer argued: ‘not in every instance!’

‘One woman will die every week in Australia at the hands of her partner so sometimes we can muddy the issue by saying we don’t look at the violence of women against men enough,’ said Jessica.

Joe argued that focusing on domestic violence against men can be ‘distracting’ when ‘it is so rare compared to the amount of violence than men heap upon women.’

‘We do need to face the fact that overwhelmingly men are the greatest perpetrators of violence against women and often children as well,’ said Joe.

‘I know people are right in saying there are mothers who kill their children too and that is, of course, unspeakably terribly but we need to address this problem.

‘It’s clearly a big problem and it’s a problem which puts a lot of other problems in the shade.’  


Tuesday
Nov102015

Participants needed for Deakin University study

Hi, my name is Dr Arlene Walker and I am conducting a research project with Dr Shannon Hyder, Dr Beth Costa and Ms Richelle Mayshak at Deakin University.

We invite adult men who have ever been in an intimate relationship to take part in this important study about the quality of men’s relationships!

The purpose of this project is to explore your experiences of intimate relationships, relationship disagreements and boundary crossings and see how they are related to health and wellbeing.

A boundary crossing refers to any behaviour that violates or restricts a person’s right to safety, self-determination, self-esteem, privacy, reputation and self-expression.

We believe it is important to investigate the quality of men’s intimate relationships to better understand men’s support needs and provide strategies to assist men who are affected by relationship disagreements and boundary crossings in the future. This project will provide information to assist health providers, policy makers and other services to better support men.

I would like to invite you to participate in this research by completing one of our anonymous surveys. The survey will take approximately 20 minutes to complete. If you think would like to participate please complete the survey online using this address:

http://bit.ly/1Qd2JBR

Participation is entirely voluntary and anonymous, and will not affect your relationship with Deakin University or with any other individual or organisation.

If you have any further questions please email me (Arlene Walker) on arlene.walker@deakin.edu.au.

You can download a PDF flyer to circulate amongst your networks from here.

Monday
Nov092015

New research finds ‘shocking’ levels of domestic violence in LGBTI relationships | news.com.au

By the time Jade’s partner began beating her in public, she’d been suffering under a reign of abuse for years. Unfounded accusations of adultery, followed by king hits to the head.

“I’m intelligent and confident, big and loud, I didn’t look like someone who would be beaten up so easily,” said *Jade, who didn’t want to use her real name.

Her abuser wasn’t an angry husband or jealous boyfriend, but a woman. She was “small and blonde” Jade said, and at least when their relationship first began, “really sweet and lovely.”

It was when the two were collaborating together on a work project that her partner became so bold as to make the abuse public.

“She said to me ‘you disgust me’, hit me to the ground and kicked me in the head in front of six people,” said Jade, who is in her 40s.

“And the worst thing was I got left there. Even though they physically saw me get assaulted in a really bad way they questioned what they had seen. People didn’t want to get involved; they thought I must have done something terrible and I got really traumatised because no one helped me.”

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Friday
Nov062015

Revealed - The Shocking Truth About Domestic Violence Support | YouTube Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rllx_-kpKTY&feature=youtu.be

Domestic Violence in Australia recently had a $100 million package for services announced by the Australian government to help women who have been victims and it is time to go beyond only making funding available for some of the victims of this horrific issue. Men also require assistance for when they are the ones being subjected to this growing violence in society today and according to ANROWS/ABS statistics, 694,100 men had experienced violence by a female intimate partner.

The harsh reality of being a male victim of domestic violence is one reason many males commit suicide because of the minimal support offered (apart from calling 1800Respect, who are fantastic). Sadly, when you're told there is nothing we can do for you because "We aren't funded to help men", you soon realise there is nowhere to turn and you feel there is little hope for the future.

The resources for men are non-existent - no emergency accommodation, no refuges, no financial assistance, no relocation assistance, no face to face counselling services (unless you are a perpetrator of DV), no place to turn to.

Being someone who experienced this first hand, I found the support to be non-existent and was shocked to discover that even the supportive literature (that is meant to be impartial) was also biased against male victims.

Domestic Violence in general is a major issue, regardless of gender, race or religion. If you want to bring real change to this issue, gender is not the answer, people are the answer - men, women, transgender. Really think about it because the only statistic relevant to DV is that 100% of victims are either female, male or transgender and every single person requires support to heal & recover.

The problem with the approach to domestic violence being continually referred to a "gendered issue" is that it is factually & perceptively incorrect. This narrative is creating gender apartheid and not taking into account that violence is a learned behavior with most perpetrators coming from either dysfunctional families, been subject to DV as a child, witnessed it in their parents relationship or has been subjected to some sort of traumatic abusive event.

Saying "statistically" only women & children require support doesn't help the 25% of males who suffer from these horrific actions & behaviours - 100% of domestic violence victims require support & assistance to recover from this debilitating problem, regardless of gender, race or religion.

Domestic Violence does not discriminate and neither should the services offered in supporting victims.

Doves4All (Domestic Violence Emotional Support 4 All) is aimed at supporting those who have experienced domestic violence through emotional roller coaster and being a place of respite to share your story, regardless of gender, race or religion.

This is a supportive group and for members to share their experience, offer help & support to others from domestic violence, provide insights into what has helped them recover and advice on resources that are available to help other victims.

This is not a group for gender debates about domestic violence and any comments which are of an abusive nature will not be tolerated.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/529349803897844/

You can help by clicking here and signing the petition - https://goo.gl/2lmjpV

Sunday
Oct252015

Why I’m backing QLD Labor Premier on male victims | Talk About Men

This week the Labor premier of Queensland, Annastacia Palaszczuk, made headlines by calling for campaigns against domestic violence to be inclusive of male victims.

Predictably—for anyone who understands the world of gender politics—this call for greater inclusivity and gender equality was not celebrated (or even begrudgingly tolerated) by the feminist movement.

Responding in The Guardian, representatives from Domestic Violence NSW (DVNSW) and Brisbane Domestic Violence Service (BDVS) warned Palaszczuk not to “put domestic violence against men above women”.

If you haven’t been initiated into the ways of gender politics, you might expect domestic violence services to be concerned for the safety of all victims, regardless of their gender.

In reality, DVNWS believes in “managing and operating refuges within a feminist framework for women alone” and BDVS takes the position that “all the indications are that 9 out of every 10 domestic violence victims is a female”.

This statement, made on the “myths and facts” page of the BDVS website without any sense of irony, is in fact a myth.

The truth is, there are many conflicting indicators on the numbers of victims of domestic violence who are male and female. Some men’s advocates claim the proportion of male victims of domestic violence is 50% or more. Some women’s advocates claim it’s 10% or less.

The truth sits somewhere between these extremes, with the Australian Bureau of Statistics telling us that one in three people who experienced domestic violence from a current partner in the past 12 months are male, as are one in four people killed by their partners.

More broadly, nearly two-thirds of victims of all violence in Australia are male, with men and boys being the main victims of both men’s violence and women’s violence.

Each year, for example, more Australian males (8.7%) will experienced violence than Australian females (5.3%).

Sure, there are some types of violence that women are more likely to experience and men are more likely to perpetrate (and vice versa). But let’s be clear, most men and women in Australia are neither perpetrators nor victims and all fair-minded campaigners for gender equality should want just three things:

  • For all victims of violence to be helped, supported and protected regardless of their gender
  • For all perpetrators of violence to be held to account for their actions and given the opportunity to reform and redeem themselves, regardless of their gender
  • For all violence to be prevented and ultimately ended, regardless of the gender of the victim of the perpetrator

There are those who argue that talking about male victims ignores the “fact” that violence is “gendered”. This is the thrust of the feminist backlash against Palaszczuk’s call for domestic violence campaigns to include male victims.

The word “gendered” is used five times in the Guardian article with Moo Baulch, CEO of Domestic Violence NSW, claiming there is a resistance to recognising the gendered nature of domestic violence and Karyn Walsh, CEO of Micah Projects, which runs the Brisbane Domestic Violence Service, saying that the response to domestic violence must maintain “a gendered focus”

But what do they mean by “gendered”?

At a theoretical level, this “gendered” approached was recently described by a former advisor to the Chief Commissioner of Victoria Police as a “socio-constructivist model of abuse…that [sees] male violence against women [as] solely an expression of patriarchy” and discards “any contributing factors to the perpetrator’s crimes other than his gender.”

At a practical level, “gendered” means that whenever possible, we should only talk about violence as a phenomenon that men perpetrate against women and girls (or women and children).

Proof of this dogma in action can be found in an open letter to the Queensland premier, signed by 24 domestic violence refuges and support services including BDVS.

Despite being 1,500 words long, the letter makes no mention of male victims (straight or gay); no mention of gay or bisexual women who are victims of domestic violence and no mention of female perpetrators.

The letter uses the word women or the phrase “women and children” 45 times, always in the context of being a “victim”, while using the word “male” twice, always in the context of “perpetrator”.

That’s not a “gendered” approach, it’s sexist and it’s homophobic in a way that is damaging to men, women, children as well as people of different sexualities and gender identities across the LGBTQI spectrum.

I agree with Walsh, Baulch and everyone in the women’s movement who says we have to take a gendered approach to tackling domestic violence, but only if that means ensuring services are tailored to the specific needs of all victims of every gender, sexuality and gender identity.

Within that diverse and equitable ideal, I would have no issue with women’s groups who advocate for female victims and not male victims, but what we have at present is people in positions of power and privilege for whom it is business as usual to advocate for female victims and against male victims.

Despite this unfortunate truth, I have no issue with people offering services within a feminist framework, but not when they try to prevent others from offering services within a non-feminist framework.

As Ally Fogg, a columnist at The Guardian in the UK, has previously said, within feminist approaches to tackling domestic violence, “too often male victims are portrayed as a statistical irrelevance, smeared as probable abusers themselves or as part of a malevolent plot against feminism, or simply ignored altogether”.

Where feminism dominates and controls services, it is inevitable that these services will respond almost exclusively to the needs of women (and their dependent children) who are victims of male perpetrators. According to the Centre for Forensic Behavioural Science, this approach means that the family violence sector in Australia is missing “at least 30 per cent of family violence situations”.

With this in mind, anyone who is genuinely committed to creating a world free from violence should be welcoming and supporting the Labor Premier’s attempts to include male victims in our response to tackling domestic violence.

To do otherwise is to treat male victims as the enemy and make it harder (if not impossible) for men, women and children who don’t fit into the heteronormative “male perpetrator/female victim” paradigm of domestic violence to get the help and support they need.

This is an archaic view of gendered violence, which lies beyond compassion and reason and has no place in a diverse, inclusive and equal society.

—Article by Glen Poole, Director of Helping Men and author of the book Equality For Men

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