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Story of domestic violence against men is hidden, complicated and disputed | Brisbane Times

Thomas Parker, 21, sits in an empty room staring into his glass of whiskey and coke with two black eyes. He says he's a happy person but the tears welling in his eyes tell a different story.

"Well I used to be a happy person. I couldn't find one person that would call me angry or depressed," he says. "But the domestic violence, the stuff she has done to me, it's fucked with my head."

Parker swallows his tears along with his last half of whiskey and coke. Another male victim of domestic violence whose story has gone untold.

Recently the federal government launched a $100 million women's safety package to help combat domestic violence against women and children. Two million of that package was allocated for men but not for the victims. Instead it was used to increase funding for MensLine for tools and resources to support perpetrators not to reoffend.

With the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women just passing many men continue to feel excluded as victims. Excluded from government funding, from help services and from awareness and recognition.

Parker says he felt most alone when he came home to his girlfriend. She looked him in the eyes and told him she loved him then told him she cheated on him. His mind swirled with emotions. He locked himself in their bedroom and collected his things. She screamed and banged on the door. But when Parker opened it he was faced with a barrage of punches and even the blades of a pair of scissors. He covered his face but still bears the scars on his arms.

He tried to leave but the door was locked and his car keys were gone. She had left no exit and was physically abusing him. Parker feared for his safety. He picked up a chair and went to smash a window. She let out an ear-piercing scream that even the neighbours would hear. Parker fell to the floor. He was having an anxiety attack. With nowhere else to go, he spent the rest of the day with her, bruised from head to toe.

"If something is harming me physically or mentally, if it was at the point I had to ring the cops to save my life I would have but it didn't get to that point," Parker says. 

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Statistics and stigma: The silence around men and domestic violence

With Queensland Premier, Annastacia Palaszczuk recently addressing the language around male domestic violence, and Australia’s sportsmen voicing their struggles with depression, a conversation about men’s personal issues has begun.

Men are typically not communicators, keeping their personal qualms secret, while women find it easier to socialise.

Additionally, boys are raised not to show “weakness” – when you are abused by someone who is female, shorter and lighter than you, to many men, this is the very definition of the word.

Similar to how women in abusive relationships are told to “just leave”, men are told to “man up and take it”.

With an array of statistics from different organisations, and a lack of voices from men who have been abused, the conversation around male domestic violence is often muted.

Senior Researcher Greg Andresen said there are many factors that influence the silence from male victims.

“There’s a real challenge there for men to admit that stuff because there’s a fear that it will make them appear as less of a man, or that they’ll be ostracized, teased or not helped, or the violence will be downplayed or minimised, or even that they will be blamed for it,” he said.

Domestic violence survivor, Craig Bennett felt ignored by social services and organisations when he asked for help.

“In 2009 when I rang up the [New South Wales] Department of Community Services hotline for domestic abuse, the woman on the phone said to me she didn’t believe I was being abused by my wife, because ‘only men abuse women’,” he said.

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Talk About Men: International Men's Day Masculinity Debate

The following is a transcript of Greg Andresen's speech at the International Men's Day Masculinity Debate in Sydney on Thursday 19th November 2015. The topic was "If masculinity is in crisis, what needs to change, men or society?".

I am going to talk in quite a specific way about how this evening’s topic applies to the work that the One in Three Campaign does in advocating for male victims of family violence.

There is no doubt that male victims of family violence are in crisis. Recent qualitative Australian research clearly show they experience much the same forms of violence and abuse as do female victims. However, they are much less likely to disclose it.

According to the 2012 ABS Personal Safety Survey, only 46% of males who have experienced current partner violence have ever told anyone about it, only 30% have sought advice or support and only 5% have contacted police.

So, male victims are in crisis, they need help, but they are reluctant to talk about it. Why is this? Research shows that both internal and external factors are involved.

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Domestic violence victims are men too, says Bettina Arndt | Tom Elliott on 3AW

Our understanding of domestic violence is incorrectly skewed to believe women are almost invariably always the victims, according to a social commentator.

Bettina Arndt, sex therapist and writer, says women are often the perpetrators of domestic violence, both towards a partner and children.

Ms Arndt has penned a feature article in tomorrow's Weekend Australian about domestic violence, claiming statistics released by authorities are misleading.

"It's a pack of lies essentially," she told Tom Elliott on 3AW Drive.

"And what makes me really mad is there a lot of statistics included in these lies that are just totally wrong and deliberately misleading. They are all about demonising men and whitewashing women."

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Silent Victims | Bettina Arndt, the Weekend Australian

Our culture assumes domestic violence is almost invariably committed by men. But the data reveals a surprisingly high number of women are abusers.


There was a funny discussion recently on the new ABC’s show, How Not to Behave. One of the hosts, Gretel Killeen started complaining about “manspreading” – men sitting with their legs apart. “Men sitting with their legs so wide apart you’d think they are about to give birth,” quipped Killeen.

The male host, Matt Okine suggested men sit that way simply because it is more comfortable. “For whom?” asked Killeen. “For my balls,” responded Okine with a funny explanation involving a grape ending up in a wine making process after being squashed at the apex of two adjoining rulers.

Man spreading has attracted attention on public transport in New York due to men’s spread legs sometimes taking up more than their allocated seat space. The city ran a campaign: “Dude, Stop the spread, please. It’s a space issue”. Fair enough. It makes sense to promote consideration for others in public spaces but as always the public discussion descended into talk about male aggression. It’s all about patriarchal men claiming their territory, sneered the feminist commentators.

Hardly a day goes by without some new story appearing which rubbishes men. After being criticized non-stop for about half a century, it’s probably time men had a right of reply, writes UK journalist Peter Lloyd in his recent book Stand By Your Manhood. Arguing that men have spent decades as the target in a long line of public floggings, Lloyd comprehensively but with surprising good humour outlines the “dismissive, patronizing and skewed” narrative about heterosexual men that has dominated mainstream media and public policy for so long.

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